I refuse to accept the above statement made by Amber Rose, a top shop model based in the United States.
Manyy a times we are faced with arguments as this and many come up with their different answers which most of the times is based on their envirnment, experiences and choices.
Saying all men cheat because you have dated five men who cheated is an outrageous overgeneralization, for crying out loud, there a billions of other men you have not dated, who wouldn’t cheat even if it was in a bid to save their lives.
Trust me, I quite understand the angle she is basing her above statement, still I say it’s not enough reason.
Most times, I hear people say, ”all men are dogs” and then I hear a counter reply like ”who asked you to date all of them”, ”even your dad too”, ”you must be shameless ‘cos you always go back to your vomit (men)”. And when I see all these, I shake my head and wonder what the world is becoming.
What is cheating?
I would rather call it infidelity so I can buttress my point.
What are the types of cheating or infidelity?
Why does it happen?
Who is to blame?
Cheating or infidelity in a relationship is when a person, X who is emotionally attached to another person Y also gets attached to yet another person Z.
To me I would say there are types of cheating or infidelity:
-emotional infidelity
-financial infidelity
-spiritual infidelity
as their names imply, one would deduce how it operates.
Emotional infidelity deals with when person X is emotionally attached to person Z while professing undying love to person Y with whom he has not emotional connection (why not just break away from one).
Financial infidelity is when person X lies to person Y that there is no cash but goes ahead to become a spendthrift when person Z is around, meanwhile person X is emotionally attached to person X who always seems to understand.
Spiritual Infidelity is when person X tells person Y that he worships in catholic and tells person Z that he worships in Roman catholic which is his true place of worship.
Note: he lied to person Y because of some sort of benefits he gets from that person as a result of such lie.
Amber Rose, the men that cheat, cheat because of some reason which I’d be listing below.
-low self esteem
-ego
-need to be approved by peers
-confusion
-immaturity
-lack of personal value
-deceitfulness.
-fear of commitment
-revenge
Who is to blame? Of course the cheater is to blame but sometimes, the cheated has a role to play in encouraging the cheating spouse.
I disagree with your above state, not all men cheat.
There are still faithful men.
There are still men who understand what it means to be a man of responsibility and a man of honour, respect and character.
I know some and I can vouch for them. So forgive me if I disagree with your single story.
All men don’t cheat.
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